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Relate is Partnering with PESI: How to Break the Pursuer / Distancer Cycle

Relate is Partnering with PESI: How to Break the Pursuer / Distancer Cycle

Relate is proud to be partnering with PESI to offer a free resource to the professional community. 

On January 31 5:30 AEDT Steven will present 'How to Break the Pursuer / Distancer Cycle.' To register, go here.

Here are some notes:

The Pursuer/Distancer Cycle is one of the most challenging dynamics in couple therapy.

One partner seeks closeness and emotional connection, and the other partner, feeling overwhelmed, withdraws…
And when a couple gets locked into this self-perpetuating loop, communication can break down until both partners end up mired in frustration and resentment.
Now, in this FREE 1-hour training, you’ll discover simple yet powerful strategies to break the pursuer/distancer cycle once and for all.


You'll discover how to:

  • Tap into the unconscious feelings that drive both pursuers and distancers
  • Coach each partner to effectively communicate their emotions and needs
  • Build trust and understanding to foster greater emotional intimacy and connection

After this ends, the Relate and PESI cooperation will continue with a 16 hour training on Integrated Couples Therapy - which of course is PORT. To register, go here.

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