New Zealand’s Leading Marriage Counsellors & Relationship Therapists

At Relate our therapists combine extensive experience (often exceeding 1000's of hours) and specialist training - a minimum of 2 models of couples therapy. Research shows that combining specialist training with experience moves typical success rates from around 50-55% to about 80%. Our team also has specialists to help you with issues ranging from communication and conflict resolution to complex issues like affair and betrayal recovery.

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Crisis Assessment

When your relationship is in trouble, sometimes there is not a lot of time to waste.

Crisis Assessments will get you a session in the next week with our Clinical Director Steven.

If you are facing a catastrophic problem e.g. an affair / someone threatening to leave etc. you can book a 2 hour Rapid or a 3 hour In Depth Assessment with Steven.

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Steven Dromgool, Relate's Founder and Director

Relate was started because of a Failed Relationship Counselling

"When my marriage was in trouble, we went to a therapist who was a good individual
therapist, but not trained in working with couples therapy. My ex, and I sat in front of him
arguing and going nowhere - eventually we decided we could fight at home for free. When
we were running out of hope, I mentioned the idea of counselling again. She said we've
already done that and it didn't work. We divorced.

I was a therapist myself and I still didn't know what was missing. When I discovered that there were specialist approaches couples counselling I embarked on a mission to learn all I
could and equip other therapists with the skills they needed to help our clients succeed. The foundation of Relate is the belief that couples and our kids deserve the absolute best in terms of training and support for the relationship clinicians who help us navigate the
challenges of relationships.

Relate is a team of relationship therapists who share this passion.“

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Specialised Training

Relate's therapists are specialists, trained in at least two specialist models of couples therapy. Most therapists working with relationships are not specifically trained in counseling couples.

Experience Matters

The Relate Team have a minimum of 200 hours of couples therapy experience with couples - most have a lot more e.g. our Director Steven has over 10 000 hours.

A Team Approach

At Relate we believe in the power of relationships. Our team meets regularly for ongoing training and support, tapping into over 100 years of combined clinical experience. This helps us all.

Why Choose Relate?

Specialist Relationship and Marriage Therapy

All our therapists are trained in multiple relationship therapy approaches to offer you the best possible support.

In-person and Online Appointments are Available

We provide in-person sessions across the globe with virtual consultations to fit your lifestyle.

Proven Strategies for Infidelity and Breakup Recovery

From managing infidelity and communication issues to enhancing emotional connections, our methods are designed for real results.

Issues We Work With

Betrayal Recovery

When trust is broken from an affair or other betrayal, the path forward seems daunting. We help you navigate the tough times with specialized crisis interventions.

Communication Breakdown

Struggle with misunderstandings? Our strategies enhance dialogue and understanding between partners.

Get Reconnected

Feeling Unheard? If you feel your concerns are minimized, we provide tools to help both partners feel valued and heard.

Stay or Go

Uncertain about decision dilemmas? We offer guidance to help you make informed relationship decisions.

Our Vision & Mission

Relate was started with the belief that every couple and their children deserve the best possible help. To get better connected, which is the best and fastest way to create a better world.

30-min 'Find Your Therapist' Consultation

Unsure How To Find the Right Therapist?

Find a therapist that works for your situation. One of the most important factors in therapy outcomes is how well you connect with your therapist.

Let Dan, a trained therapist and the practice manager at Relate, help find the right therapist for you.

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Relate Unlimited: Every Course Skill and Strategy for One Price

Relate Unlimited - it’s all the good stuff! Conversations with our therapists and visiting experts.  Short and long courses on all things Relational. It’s what you need to know to create great relationships.  Regularly updated and interactive - send in your questions for tailored answers.  Always available on any device, it's there when you need it.

All offered for the monthly cost of a Netflix subscription.

Relate Unlimited will help you answer questions like: 

  • Can my relationship be better? 
  • Will couples therapy help? 
  • What are the secrets of awesome relationships? 
  • Why do we fight (even though we want to stop)?
  • Why does it feel like we are speaking different languages? 
  • And many, many more.

Relate Unlimited also includes specialized courses including:

  • How do I survive a betrayal? 
  • Escaping toxic masculinity?
  • Managing sex and pornography addiction

As therapists we know the need is vastly greater than our capacity to see clients.  Combining great therapy with key information helps us become more effective, therapy is easier, faster cheaper and more powerful. We want to make Relate Unlimited irresistible.

We priced Relate Unlimited at $15, because Netflix is $15 a month and a decent lunch is $15. In our minds making your relationship better is worth at least the cost of Netflix or lunch.

And just to make it easier we even included a free trial to see if you agree …

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THE RELATE DIFFERENCE

Relate’s mission is to provide you with expert relationship counselling or couples therapy help.  We specialise in working with marriage and relationship issues for couples and singles.  Our team are experts in relationship counselling and are committed to help you improve or even rescue your relationship. Appointments are offered weekdays, after hours and weekends. Relationship Therapy Assessments and Intensives are also available.

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

I walked into our first session with Steven thinking our Marriage was over, we had not been intimate for over a year and our marriage was a cold, frozen wasteland. We walked out smiling and laughing and after a dinner where we actually talked we spent the evening in bed making love like it was the first time ever.
Steven is a magician - I almost didn't recognise my husband, he was relaxed and laughing and then he turned to me and apologised for the way he had missed me - there were tears in his eyes - I still can't believe it. We still struggle and get stuck sometimes but we know how to unhook ourselves and we are a team. Thank you for helping me find my man again.

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