ADHD Couples and Relationship Therapy

Where one or both partners have ADHD they often have relationship problems. Both ADHD Coaching and Relationship Therapy are complex specialties.
Strengths Based ADHD Relationship Course

How does ADHD Affect Relationships?

It's very common for one partner to wonder if the other partner has ADHD. If you (or your partner) has ever worried about the following questions, you might benefit from learning more about ADHD in relationships.

Will I ever feel fully heard and understood in my relationship?

How will ADHD-related issues like forgetfulness and impulsivity impact the frequency of fighting?

Will I constantly feel like I have to remind and organize my partner?

How will my partner's forgetfulness about important dates, conversations, or tasks, create problems with follow-through on commitments?

How might impulsive spending or financial decisions affect our financial stability and future?

How can I best navigate my partner's intense mood swings, emotional reactivity, or quick temper?

Will my partner's distractibility or focus on solo interests limit the quality time we have together as a couple?

Over time, will I feel resentful if I perceive I'm shouldering more of the relationship or household burdens?

If you answered 'YES' to any of these questions, you may want to learn more about ADHD, treatment options, and how to make your relationship better. Relate has created a two-part course 'Strengths Based Relationship Therapy for ADHD' which is included in the School of Love.

Learn more here. (3 Day Free Trial is Available)

Why ADHD Couples Counselling?

ADHD can bring unique challenges to relationships. A specialist who understands relationships can provide guidance on communication, navigating conflicts, and keeping the connection strong.

Why an ADHD Coach?

ADHD impacts everyone differently, and what works at one point might not work as well later on. A specialist provides ongoing monitoring, adjusts the treatment plan as needed, and helps navigate changes over time.

Can ADHD Cause Relationship Problems?

Yes, when one or both partners have ADHD, the relationship may have problems with impulsivity, emotional dysregulation, disorganisation, intimacy problems, and feeling unheard.

ADHD Relationship Education and Empowerment

A good ADHD specialist educates the individual and their partner about ADHD. They empower the person with ADHD to understand their strengths, develop self-advocacy skills, and learn strategies to thrive.

Relate's ADHD Relationship Specialist, Cath Baker uses a Strengths based approach to help couples.

Improving Follow Through in ADHD Relationship Therapy Example Video

The following video is an excerpt of 'Strengths Based Approach to ADHD Relationship Therapy' an online course.

Managing Black and White Thinking in ADHD Relationship Therapy

ADHD Relationship Counselling Example: "Black and White" Thinking

I common to hear couples complain of rigid, linear, right/wrong or black and white thinking. This often causes conflict, disconnection and a sense of being alone. If this is a concern that you have, listen to how Cath Baker helps couples work through this problem.

Hear an Example of how ADHD Coach and Relatonship Therapist, Cath Baker, works with rigid thinking in counselling in the video below. This is an excerpt from 'Strengths Based Approach to ADHD Relationship Therapy.'

Improving "Black and White" Thinking in ADHD Relationship Therapy

Cath Baker: ADHD Certified Coach and Relationship Therapist

Relate is privileged to have Cath as a team member. She may be the only ADHD Certified Coach and Specialist Relationship Therapist available in Auckland. While she lives in Sydney, she is available for new clients via Zoom.

Gallups Strengths Finder for ADHD

Cath uses a novel approach for helping couples work through ADHD. Often couples get stuck on the negativity around ADHD and miss opportunities to utilise their strengths. Cath uses Gallups Strengths Finder to help couples identify their strengths. From these strengths, Cath utilises couples therapy strategies from IMAGO, Gottman and PORT to help couples communicate effectively and decrease conflict.

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