It's important to have independence while maintaining connection. Relationships struggle with the pursuer-distancer dynamic and may constantly disappointed with the connection in their relationship. Partners in intimate relationships usually end up blaming each other when they feel their needs aren't being met. This can lead to a pursuer-distancer tug of war, which makes the situation even more difficult. Couples often find themselves having the same arguments over and over again. As time passes, they stop focusing on the actual problem and a cycle of bitterness, frustration, and anger takes over and things don't get better. Watch to learn more.
Often couples need good information - and the Pursuer/Avoider dynamic is a relationship problem you should know more about. Relate has created a number of courses to help you on your relationship journey. Men and Women, Pursuers and Avoiders was created specifically to help couples be more connected.
